tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3755454655379713651.post5318527453941299738..comments2023-08-24T11:27:44.560+01:00Comments on Any Excuse to Write....: Fair and Lovely?Smithahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06168565596774930645noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3755454655379713651.post-795834876338364812009-01-15T10:44:00.000+00:002009-01-15T10:44:00.000+00:00@Happy Kitten, I would be more than happy to hear ...@Happy Kitten, I would be more than happy to hear from you! I think thats what I like most about blogging - the comments :)I had no idea that school textbooks mention this! Talk about poisoning young minds! I am so mad to hear it! Guess, its on us - the parents to ensure that the right message goes to our kids..Smithahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06168565596774930645noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3755454655379713651.post-17061361781186669372009-01-15T08:39:00.000+00:002009-01-15T08:39:00.000+00:00Smitha, you have touched upon so many topics that ...Smitha, you have touched upon so many topics that are very relevant and you write in a balanced manner. I dint want to bother you with all my comments.<BR/><BR/>This penchant for fairness has bothered me for a long time. I have never felt anyone to be better looking if they are only fair but I have heard many dismiss a person only because he/she is dark! This is dangerous since a person is much more than the skin and has to develop no matter what the color of the skin is. Can you believe that this is mentioned even in our school text books for the younger classes? If nothing else dampens their confidence this will.Happy Kittenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14406399936808407736noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3755454655379713651.post-38301295425022357872008-12-16T14:40:00.000+00:002008-12-16T14:40:00.000+00:00@kanaguonline, yes you are right.. Such ads really...@kanaguonline, yes you are right.. Such ads really send out the wrong message.. And its not just for marriages is it - it is now also indicating that fairness is a pre-requisite for success.. It is a sad state of affairs...Smithahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06168565596774930645noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3755454655379713651.post-25502132752562307712008-12-16T14:31:00.000+00:002008-12-16T14:31:00.000+00:00yes... fairness is being expected in our society i...yes... fairness is being expected in our society in a big way which is not a healthy sign.. First our government must ban all those ads which shows like only a bride who is fair gets married..Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3755454655379713651.post-30699505500011208802008-12-15T04:47:00.000+00:002008-12-15T04:47:00.000+00:00[url=http://www.zabrigraphics.com/graphics/act,pho...[url=http://www.zabrigraphics.com/graphics/act,photos/cid,108/][img]http://gallery.zabrigraphics.com/13/1189791329_hi75.gif[/img][/url]Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3755454655379713651.post-71872249712437698362008-12-14T11:42:00.000+00:002008-12-14T11:42:00.000+00:00LOL, guys like them dumb!On a more serious note, y...LOL, guys like them dumb!<BR/><BR/>On a more serious note, yes, that discrimination in India is bad. There is an attitudinal change required. Other than that, it probably is a simple case of supply and demand...Vinod_Sharmahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14654167848186778789noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3755454655379713651.post-5418082523128719962008-12-14T11:36:00.000+00:002008-12-14T11:36:00.000+00:00@Vinod, As I said - I was not really sure of how ...@Vinod, As I said - I was not really sure of how true that Aryan-dravidian thing is - yes - you are right - it is most probably something created by the British..<BR/>Well - blondes might be in demand - but I don't think there is the kind of discrimination that is evident in India..Infact blondes have another stereotype to fight - that they are 'dumb' - but thats another topic I guess :)Smithahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06168565596774930645noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3755454655379713651.post-11840185432706308382008-12-14T11:31:00.000+00:002008-12-14T11:31:00.000+00:00This Aryan-Dravidian divide is nothing more than a...This Aryan-Dravidian divide is nothing more than a creation of the British as is the 'Martial race'. Both were invented by them for reasons that we all know.<BR/><BR/>Ram, Krishna, Shiv, Narayan Himself, the main Gods of the Hindus are all dark. Yes, the Goddesses are mostly fair-skinned, Kala being the main exception. There is no evidence of any preference for fair colour in any scripture/ classification of castes based on colour... may be it is a simple case of many people beginning to prefer the fairer one for a host of reasons over time. <BR/><BR/>Even among the whites, aren't the blonds most in demand?!Vinod_Sharmahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14654167848186778789noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3755454655379713651.post-26924295186493174092008-12-14T11:17:00.000+00:002008-12-14T11:17:00.000+00:00@L Venkata Subramanium,Welcome to my blog..'yes ev...@L Venkata Subramanium,<BR/>Welcome to my blog..<BR/>'yes everyone wants to look good...everyone wants a good looking partner to some extent....but this is taking things to the extreme' - why should being 'fair' be equated to 'good looking' - that is the stereotype...<BR/>@Manju, Welcome to my blog.. Yes it is indeed sad that being fair is one of the 'attributes' in the marriage market even now..<BR/><BR/>@IHM, you make a very relevant point about asuras being dark and gods being fair.. Actually - there is also a very interesting theory which claims that when Aryans came to India - they essentially started the caste system in such a way that the so-called superior castes were fair (the pure blood Aryans) and as the colour gets darker - so does the status.. So the native Dravidians - apparently got pushed down the casts ladder. Not sure how true this is - but just wanted to mention it. Infact they also say that Krishna was dark - as a measure to try and assimilate the Dravidians in Aryan culture...Smithahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06168565596774930645noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3755454655379713651.post-20371646471768396842008-12-14T08:30:00.000+00:002008-12-14T08:30:00.000+00:00I think we have been ruled by the Mughals who were...I think we have been ruled by the Mughals who were light skinned (compared to us) and then the British who were still lighter, so it is kind of very seriously embedded into our heads.<BR/><BR/>Ancient Indian texts don't say much about beauty and fairness? Actually they do. All Asuras were dark, most Gods were fair. <BR/><BR/>@Amit Poddar -it is not a small issue, I have seen little girls and boys wishing they were lighter skinned, and Krishna's song, "radha kyon kali, main kyon kala' shows that being dark can make a lot of people very unhappy. Quite unnecessarily.<BR/><BR/>Not just girls, boys also are discriminated against if they are not fair.Indian Home Makerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10649133480442907582noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3755454655379713651.post-65313209898126538632008-12-14T03:50:00.000+00:002008-12-14T03:50:00.000+00:00Smitha, yes, the insistence on choosing a 'fair' b...Smitha, yes, the insistence on choosing a 'fair' bride is depressing in these modern times. In other situations women are judged according to their abilities but not when it comes to the marriage market!<BR/><BR/>Re: 'fair and handsome'- it is amusing to see the shift from 'tall, dark and handsome' to 'fair and handsome'! :)manjuhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15470194805146456892noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3755454655379713651.post-46632068430768081582008-12-14T03:25:00.000+00:002008-12-14T03:25:00.000+00:00I think we are just stereotyping Indians....it mak...I think we are just stereotyping Indians....it makes for an interesting conversation....I dont think this is reality today though....yes everyone wants to look good...everyone wants a good looking partner to some extent....but this is taking things to the extremeL. Venkata Subramaniamhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08013877791567403788noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3755454655379713651.post-27567413519590417082008-12-13T22:58:00.000+00:002008-12-13T22:58:00.000+00:00Welcome to my blog, Amit. Sure, there are several ...Welcome to my blog, Amit. Sure, there are several more important issues. But in my opinion, this is just one more way in which the society tries to undermine women. It might be mundane to you - but to several women, who have been the target of such discrimination it might not be so mundane!Smithahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06168565596774930645noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3755454655379713651.post-59756804731122148282008-12-13T19:22:00.000+00:002008-12-13T19:22:00.000+00:00This is a very lame topic. There are many very ser...This is a very lame topic. There are many very serious topics in the world, from climate change, to genocide, to poverty, to aids etc. Ladies please come out of your self pity. Males have failed to provide good leadership to the world, so you take over, we will support you. But then you need to change your focus, from mundane stuff to more serious.<BR/>~Amit PoddarAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com